Maybe I’m the only one, but I’ve struggled my whole life to grasp that the universe doesn’t revolve around me. Perhaps it is because every great movie seems to have an epic French horn solo, and because that’s my instrument I too felt like my life was epic. I could almost hear my own movie soundtrack playing as I walked the streets of New York, living my seemingly grandiose life.
I mean, in theory I understand that I’m this infinitesimally small being living on a sphere orbiting a sun in a galaxy which is one of many galaxies, but the struggle of my self-involvedness happens in day-to-day life. In those small moments, I’m really guilty of making it all about me. And in the end, NEWSFLASH, it’s not. I guess I’m in good company, since God had to say to Job, “Where were you when I Iaid the earth’s foundations?” Clearly, we all have a propensity to lose perspective.
The more I get that, the more useful I find myself becoming. The more I get that, the more selfless I find my actions. The more I get that, the less offense I take when others do their thing. So how do we cultivate a lifestyle that’s not all about us when our nature is to walk through life hearing our epic soundtrack and its swooping melodies? Here are some tips.
1. Give Your Day Away
I’m sure your thinking, ‘What? Give my day away? I have to work, raise my kids, study…. I already feel like I’m giving it away and there’s nothing left for me.’ Trust me, before we give our day to anything, we need to first present it as an offering to the Father. The thing I have found is that when I do this, I actually end up laying down the anxieties, the stresses, the concerns, the selfishness, and the fears. In their place I pick up peace, joy, long suffering, gentleness, kindness, meekness and goodness. I also seem to pick up this radar that helps me see the heavy load that someone else is silently carrying. This radar helps me find opportunities to love, lift up, encourage and give. It’s like that time in the morning is a time of refreshing, refilling and drinking deep from the fount of life. Then, as the day pulls at me from all sides I am drawing from a deep reservoir within and I am able to meet whatever comes.
2. Commit Yourself
We are so guilty of thinking only of ourselves when faced with things that require commitment. We’d rather not commit to being in the choir because sometimes we like our Sundays to ourselves. We’d rather not commit to leading a small group because we aren’t that much of a people person. We’d rather not join that club because then we’ll have to pay dues. Here’s the thing. When we start to consider that just our presence there each Sunday could encourage someone, that’s not pride. That’s not making it all about you. That, my friends, is accepting responsibility. When we realize that committing to that weekly prayer meeting not only lifts you (because it increases your relationship with God), but it also encourages the others that pray because they see they are not alone, we begin to see a purpose in being a part of the bigger picture. Servanthood asks first, what can I do for my God and for my fellowman, not what do I feel like doing today?
If you are like me, you will be more faithful if you commit to things. Make vows. Tell others. Be accountable. Commit yourself. The radical, almost instantaneous growth you will see in your spiritual walk will astound you.
3. Pick Three People
What if all of us just found three. Three disenfranchised. Three hurting. Three oddballs that are kind of odd like we are odd. And I’m not talking about family here (though I know we all have lots of oddballs in our families). I’m talking about three people in your life that are near you right now. What if we committed to pray for them daily, reach out to them, love them unconditionally, and find little ways to pour into their lives selflessly. What if we eventually even told them what they were to us, how we weren’t going to let them go, how we are praying for them daily, how they are significant to someone. I think that if we did this, we could begin to change the world. Here’s the thing though. We’ve gotta love those three expecting nothing back. We’ve gotta pray for those 3 relentlessly no matter whether we see quick answers or not.
Christ gave himself. So if we are to be Christians – AKA Christ-like- we too must give ourselves. First to him and then to others. To me, this means laying down myself, my dreams and my plans at the foot of the cross daily. It also means that I am asking God to change my worldview from one that sees everything through a Misty-lens to one that sees through a God-lens. Every time we catch ourselves feeling put-upon or upset by a situation, let’s stop, look up and ask, “Is this really about me, or is there some larger picture here that I am failing to see?” If we get in this habit, he is sure to adjust our vision and get our eyes on the things that matter and off of ourselves.